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Malayalee marriage is a very short and sweet ceremony, which is mostly held in the morning times of the day. The marriage hall that is mostly preferred in their customs is the maternal house of the bride. However the typical malayalee’s still conducting the marriages at their own houses but due to the fact for a more convenient venue for both side families the marriages are now a days conducting mostly at the marriage halls. Whether the occasion is a lavish marriage with the huge number of guests to witness or it might be a simple one the marriage rituals that are followed by the malayalees are generally the same. The malayalee marriages comprises of the following rituals.

Malayalee Marriage Pre Malayalee Marriage Rituals

In the earlier days boy and girl used to see each other only during the marriage because everything was decided by the elders of the family. The final decision was made by the elders considering the family cast, religion, status, family background. Later the families agreed that the consent of the boy and the girl before marriage is important. Finally it became a formal to make a girl and boy to see each other and decide on the marriage only upon their opinions. Once the girl and boy agreed to marry each other then both families meet to perform the further rituals.

Muhurtham

The both parents of the bride and the groom exchange horoscopes and ask their family astrologer to test for the future of the couple, if the horoscopes match and once they heard from the astrologer that both bride and groom can be a best couple an auspicious date or muhurtham is decided upon for conducting the Malayalee wedding ceremony in consultation with the family astrologer.

Nischayam / Engagement Ceremony

This ceremony is conducted to officially announce celebrate and share their joyful moments of the confirmation of the upcoming marriage. The horoscopes which have been compared and approved are exchanged between the two families. During this ceremony the bride and the groom exchange the rings and garlands and both side families exchange various types of traditional gifts.

Pre-nuptial blessing of the bride

This ceremony is held at the bride’s house the day before the marriage day. Only the close family members and relatives are invited to the ceremony and a grand arrangements are organized for them. The bride dresses in fine jewellery and silk saree is made to sit infront of all the relatives facing the east and all the invitees blesses her with all the joy in her future life. The similar ceremony is organized at the groom’s family as well which symbolises that the elders are the well wishers for any one and for this aspicious occasion the bride and groom need blessings from them to start their new life.

Mehendi Ceremony

This ceremony takes place at the bride’s house where the bride’s relatives apply mehendi on the bride’s hands. The mehendi designer visits this occasion to make the bride’s hands more beautiful and make bride ready for the marriage. This is a much celebrated ceremony in the Malayalee marriages.

Malayalee Marriage Rituals

The most preferable place for the marriage occasion in the Malayalee marriages is the ancestral house of the bride. However considering the convenience and the arrangements perspective these days the most people are preferring to celebrate and conduct the marriage ceremony at the convention centre or temple.

Dakshina Kodukkal

Both bride and groom get the blessings from the elders of the both families by giving Dakshina and touching their feet. The actual marriage rituals starts with the ritual that is carried out in their respective homes. Thereafter the bridegroom and the members leaves for the venue of the marriage.

Nair Wedding Custom

The kalyana mandap must be decorated in a specific way as each of these has certain purpose and meaning in Malayalee custom.

Nair Wedding- Sacred Arrangements

Kanyadaan

The bridegroom is welcomed to the marriage venue by the bride’s family members. The bride’s brother washes the groom’s legs and invites him warmly to the venue. The bridegroom is usually escorted to the marriage kalyana mandapa by a group of young girls carrying deepams (diyas) and made to sit in a wooden plank on the right side of the canopy which is decorated with flowers, fabric, palm fonds and banana stalks. The bride now arrives to the kalyana mandapam escorted by her aunty and made to sit next to the groom, even the ‘nadaswaram’ is being played in the background.

At the auspicious marriage moment, the family priest performs the Malayalee wedding ceremony by chanting vedic mantras and the new couple walks around the fire, after which the groom is given the mangalsuthra by his father and he ties the mangalasutra around the neck of the bride to the beating of drums. This Malayalee marriage ritual is called tallikettu.

Pudamuri

The bridegroom then gifts a sari and blouse to the bride on a platter, conveying that he will take over all the responsibility of providing for her life time. This marriage ritual is called Pudamuri.

The new couple now exchange the the garlands accepting each other as the life partners. The bride’s father places her right hand in the right hand of the bridegroom, symbolically transferring the responsibility of taking care of his daughter in this holy life. Then they escorted to a room by their older relatives and bless them. The guests too follow them and bless them with gifts.

A typical meal in Kerala marriages known as the Sadya, which consists of 25 items, is served on plantain leaves. The items are Rice with three varieties of pickle, curries and sweets, Avial, toran, olan, kalam, payasam, pacchadi, pappads and finally the desert paladaaprathaman or chaka prathaman, form part of the elaborate meal.

Malayalee Marriage Post Malayalee Wedding Ceremony

Grihapravesh

As decided by the family priest the bride enters to her new home. She receives the blessings of her parents and all elders present at the marriage venue. As she reaches her new house, the womne take ‘Aarthi’ to cast off evil eyes. The bride now holds a traditional lamp in her hand and is asked to enter her in laws house with her right foot first. The entire house fills with lamp lit all over the house, considered to be a god omen as the new couple starts their new life together. This Malayalee marriage ceremony is called ‘Kudivep’. The in laws give the bride new clothes, jewellery and gifts.

Kannada marriages are the marriages that are performed in the state of Karnataka. Kannada marriages almost resembles the traditional Hindu marriages. However they differ slightly in customs and traditions according to the region they conducted in. The marriage celebration facilitates the opportunity to the both side families and relatives to meet and enjoy the occasion. Before the marriage ceremony to take place both the prospective bride and groom’s parents must approve the pairing of this couple before anything can progress as a part of the marriage ritual.

One of the most important features of the Kannada marriage is the practice of lot of rituals that are performed before, during and after marriage ceremony. The rituals performed in the Kannada marriage ceremony are simple and allow the family members to have a good time together in the occasion.

Kannada Marriage Pre Marriage Rituals

In the earlier days boy and girl used to see each other only during the marriage because everything was decided by the elders of the family. The final decision was made by the elders considering the family cast, religion, status, family background. Later the families agreed that the consent of the boy and the girl before marriage is important. Finally it became a formal to make a girl and boy to see each other and decide on the marriage only upon their opinions. Once the girl and boy agreed to marry each other then both families meet to perform the further rituals.

The pre marriage rituals commence with the Naandi custom, it is performed by the the bride and groom in their houses individually respectively. It is performed to ensure the marriages take place without any interruption. The Kaashi Yatra tradition follows this celebration. It is an interesting ritual where the groom pretends to leave for Kaashi as he is devoid of a suitable bride. He has been stopped by his maternal uncle by showing the bride he has chosen for him. Just before the groom leaves for the bride’s vllag, all the marriage items are places in front of the Lord to seek the blessings. This is named as Dev karya ceremony. After this ceremony both the bride and the groom are applied turmeric paste.

Kannada Marriage Marriage Rituals

On the marriage day the first ritual that take place at the marriage mandap is Mandap Puja, according to which the marriage mandap and the marriage hall where the marriage to to be take place are purified. Once this is completed the bride’s father worships the groom by washing his feet. This is called as Var puja. This is followed by the bride’s entry to the mandap, after that both bride and groom exchange the garlands on the chant of the holy mantras. This is followed by the ritual where the bride’s parents give away her daughter to the groom by placing the coconut and betel over their hands and pouring some holy water by chanting some holy mantras. Then the groom ties the mangalsutra ( thread with holy symbol of their traditional gold item ) around the bride’s neck. After this, Saptapadi ceremony where the newly wed couple takes seven rounds around the sacred fire.

Kannada Marriage Post Marriage Rituals

After the marriage ceremony, the bride has been taken to her in laws home for the first time. When she arrives the home she is given a warm welcome by her in-laws. This process is takes place with a vessel filled with rice is kept at the entrance of the house just near by the door space and she is asked to knock it inside the home with her right foot. This symbolizes that the bride takes the home a wealthy and joyful success to her new home. After this, the bride enters the house and this is called as Griha Prahesh. After this the name change ceremony takes place where the groom decides a name for his wife and he then inscribes it with a ring on a place which is filled with rice.

On the second day after the marriage, the bride’s parents visit the newly wed couple at the groom’s house. With the permission of the groom’s parents they take the couple to their home along with themselves. The couple stays there for some days and the groom’s family goes to the bride’s home and take the couple back. Finally the reception party concludes the marriage ceremony, which is organized in a banquet hall by the groom’s family, the primary aim of this reception party is the introduction of the bride, enjoyment and relishing mouth watering delicacies. After this ceremony the couple will remain at the groom’s house and starts their new life.

Tamil marriage is a great extravagance, splendor and pomp occasion. Tamil marriages are the most sacred religious ties between the bride and groom families. The young boys and girls eagerly await for the elaborate, expensive and emotional marriage event. usually the Tamil marriage are help in large scale as the marriages are attended by the close as well as all the distant relative. The marriages in different communities differ slightly in some rituals but most of the significant marriage rituals remains the same. There are so many rituals take place before, during and after marriage without which the Tamil marriage is deemed incomplete. Like the other Hindu marriages the Tamil marriage also last about 3 days. Traditionally, the bride family is responsible for all the marriage arrangements and expenses. The dress code of the Tamil marriage is usually saree or madisaar for the bride and the bare chested with veshti for groom.

Tamil Marriage Pre Marriage Rituals

In the earlier days boy and girl used to see each other only during the marriage because everything was decided by the elders of the family. The final decision was made by the elders considering the family cast, religion, status, family background. Later the families agreed that the consent of the boy and the girl before marriage is important. Finally it became a formal to make a girl and boy to see each other and decide on the marriage only upon their opinions. Once the girl and boy agreed to marry each other then both families meet to perform the further rituals.

The proposal

This is a process that usually takes place at the bride’s house. The at most importance of this occasion is to receive the blessings from the parents. The proposal is an arrangement between the two families and bringing them together, securing their blessings, support for the couple. The groom’s family members visits the bride and gifts her a tray containing betel leaf and nut, fruits and coconut. This occasion shows that the groom parents formally asks the bride’s hand in marriage.

Vrutham

In Tamil marriage rituals formally begin with the payers offered to the Gods and their ancestors to seek their blessing for the marriage. This happens the day before the marriage day in early hours. A sacred yellow thread is tied on the wrists of the bride and the groom. Then the Palika ceremony starts where nine grain varieties are sprinkled on the couple to wish them prosperity. After this Aarthi ceremony is performed.

Janavasam (Maapillai Azhaippu)

The groom welcomed to the marriage venue by the bride family members often dancing, singing along the route. In the modern marriages, the bride may join the groom halfway through the procession. Then they go to the temple where the groom will be offered a set of traditional dhoti (veshti) and shirt to wear for the engagement ceremony. The procession then makes the way to the Marriage hall where the engagement ceremony begins.

Nichayathartham (The Engagement Ceremony)

The bride’s family members bring turmeric, clothes for the groom, betel nuts and leaves and the bride’s brother honours the groom by placing the garland around his neck. Sweets are distributed to all the guests as a symbol of happiness. Then the Aarti is performed and coconut is broken to get rid of evil eyes.

On the raised platform, both the families sit opposite to each other and marriage details along with the marriage date and time are written on the paper (Lagna Patrika) by the priest and read aloud to inform all the guests. The lagna patrika contains the names of both the families, the names of the grooom and bride and the marriage date and time on which the marriage to be conducted and it is signed by both bride’s and groom’s parents. After this occasion, Thamboolams (fry fruits, nuts, turmeric, kumkum and platters of betel nuts) and gifts are exchanged between both the families.

Kashi Yatra

The groom now dressed in the given Panchakatcham veshti and holds umbrella, a fan, a walking stick and a towel containing dhal and rice tied to his shoulder. The groom then sets off on a mock pilgrimage to pursue further religious studies. The bride’s father stops groom by saying the importance of the married life to an ascetic life and he also promises the groom that his daughter will be a companion to him in all his challenges in life. Then the groom accepts for the words and returns to the marriage mandapam to get married. The groom keeps the umbrella with him to remind him in future of this advice.

Tamil Marriage Marriage Rituals

Maalai Maatral

Once the groom agrees to the bride’s father words then the ‘Maalai Maatral’ i.e exchange of garlands between the groom and the bride takes place. Then the bride and the groom lifted by their maternal uncles, this is to express the continuous sibling support to their mothers. The couple attempt to garland each other while the both sides trying to dodge each attempt. The garland exchange occasion indicates their unification as one soul in two bodies.

Oonjal

Now the couple are made to sit on the swing (Oonjal) which is moved gently. The swing’s oscillation shows the couple that they must stay strong during all the challenges and joys of life. The ladies from both families through the coloured rice balls in four directions to get rid of the evil sprits.

Palligai Seeds Sowing

Palligai are the earth pots made a day earlier. These pots spread with hariali grass and bael leaves. Nine different kinds of cereals are soaked in the pots. After the marriage occasion finishes, the sprouted seedlings are released in a pool or river. This rituals gives the blessings of quartered guardian angels resides in eight directions for a healthy life and wealth to the couple.

Kannika Dhanam

During this ritual the bride sits on the lap of her father. Bride hands are lifted in the upwards and places on the upward turned hands of groom and then the auspicious betel leaves, nuts and coconut are placed on the hands of the bride. A ring made up of Darbha of kusa grass is placed on the bride’s head and a yoke is placed over it. The Mangal Sutra ot Thali is placed on the aperture of yoke and water if poured through the aperture. The yoke symbolizes the ancient ritual life where only mode of transport for the households was the bullock cart. The bullock cart can not run with a single wheel, it should have two proper wheel to run the vehicle. Likewise in married life both bride and the groom have the equal responsibility to make it success.

After this ritual a new saree exclusive for the marriage occasion called koorai is chosen. The colour of the saree must be red, the colour associated with shakti. The saree is draped around the bride by the bridegroom’s sister signifying her welcome to the new family. The belt made of reed grass is tied to the bride’s waist. Now the thanksgiving vedic hitmns follow this ritual, to her childhood caretakers, dieties of Soma, Gandharva and Agni. Now the bride is free to be given to the groom. The groom then gives the assurance to the bride’s father saying three times that he shall remain forever the bride’s companion in all her sorrow and joy in this life and life after.

Kankana Dhaaranam

The bride then ties a thread spread with a turmeric paste and a piece of turmeric is attached to it to the wrist of the bridegroom to bind themselves by a religious vow. A little later the bridegroom ties the kankanam to the bride. The bridegroom gets the right to touch the bride only after this kankaka dharana ritual.

Mangalyadharanam

The bride is seated on the lap of her father facing the eastward while the bridegroom faces the westward. The bridegroom then ties the Mangala Sutra around the neck of the bride. As he does this, the musicians plays the nadaswaram loud and fast so as to muffle any inauspicious sounds at this most auspicious event. This is called “Getti Melam”. The groom ties the first knot of the Mangal Sutra as the bridegroom’s sister ties the two knots to make the bride the part of their family. The three knots symbolizes Brahma, Vishnu and Rudhra.

Sapthapadi

The bride and groom walk seven steps around the sacred fire. The bridegroom walks with the bride on the right side of the sacred fire by holding his wife’s right hand. The groom holds the right toe of the bride with his right hand. At the begininning of each step the groom chants a vedic mantra seeking the blessings of Maha Vishnu. As the seven mantras are being chanted, groom them asks the Mana Vishnu to follow in the footsteps of his wife and bless her with strength, food, piety, comfort, progeny, wealth and health.

Pala Dhanam

Gifts are exchanged between both the families. They will follow that no gift shall be taken without a return gesture, which shows the mutual arrangements between the families to be based on the principle of the equality and respect of each other irrespective of each other’s financial status in the life.

Pradhana Homam

The newly married couple goes around the fire and feed it with the ghee and twigs the nine types of holy trees as the sacred fuel. The sacred purifier Agni, the all round benefactor is deemed as a witness to the sacred marriage. This whole process is called ‘Agni Saakshi’ i.e. witness by fire.

Treading on the Grindstone

The groom holds the bride’s left toe to help her to tread on a grindstone kept on the right side of a fire and slips silver rings on her toes (Mettis), This is symbolic to the solid rock foundation for the union.

Arundhathi and Dhruva Nakshathram(Nachchathiram)

Then the couple is shown the Dhruva Nakshatra or Pole Star, who attained immortality through perseverance and single minded devotion and also the Arundhathi Nakshatra as the ideal wife, symbol to show the fact such kind of virtues are to be emulated throughout their marital life.

Laaja Homam

This rituals is done only the bride’s own offering to the sacred fire. To symbolize the sibling relationship her brother helps her in this ritual. He gives her a handful of the puffed rice grains which she gives to the groom. The groom then adds a spoon of ghee and her behalf and chants Vedic mantras. After every vedic mantra the rice is thrown into the sacred fire as an offering to the Agni. Through this offering to Agni the bride seeks the blessing to her bright life with her husband. The involvement of the bride’s brother indicates the involvement of both the families during the marriage. This offering is repeated thrice.

Nalangu

During this ritual the bride and groom sits opposite to each other. They apply themselves turmeric on each other’s feet. To get rid of the evil eyes the bride takes the yellow rice and waves around her husbands head the throws it away, the same process is repeated by the groom as well. After this the family play time starts to lighten the people after so much marriage work. The bride and groom search the object in the small bowl whoever find the object they believe that they will be dominant person in the married life. Another game of throwing the coconut as a ball takes place.

Jayadhi Homam

During this rituals they offer the prayers to the Gandharvas and other deities who are soft natured celestial beings with the finer sentiments of the life. The outcome of this prayer will give the knowledge and Brahminical “Sathvic” qualities. After this another three prayers are offered Vyahrithi homam, Swishtakrith homam and Pajapathi homam. One all the prayers are done the fire from the homam is preserved in a new mud pot and taken by the bride to her new house.

Tamil Marriage Post Marriage Customs

Pravesa Homam

This is the rituals takes place during the bride’s entry into her husband’s home. The sacraficial fire brought by her from the marriage hall initiates the puja here, indicates the new beginning to her life in accordance with the existing happiness.

Sesha Homam

Sesha means leftover. Fire oblation with the pure ghee, small amount of which is sprinkled on the bride’s head four times and the leftover is considered as the sacred, the whole of which is then offered to Agni. This is a blessing for healthy future. The groom ties a thread around the bride’s hip.

Thamboola Charvanam

The bride’s brother gives the first betel leaf to the couple to chew. Other gifts are given to the couple to bless them a long and happy life a head.

Mangala Aarthi

A plate is filled with the lime solution and added with the turmeric powder, circled around the couple and thrown away to get rid of the evil eyes on the couple. This process is done multiple times during the marriage.

The Telugu Marriage ceremony is the traditional marriage ceremony followed by the Telugu people in India. The marriage rituals conducted by the Telugu speaking people during the marriage ceremony are different from those conducting in the neighboring southern states of India.  The rich and varied cultural heritage of Andhra Pradesh and Telangana states of India can be seen in the marriage ceremony conducted there.

Marriage is considered as the strongest of social bonds to spiritually merge two souls opening the doors to their household life. Telugu Marriage is bind by seven pledges made by the groom and bride. Marriage commences once the bride and groom have completed their seven revolutions around the fire. Some symbolic gestures and rituals encompass the marriage ceremony and ensure the couple are united in the presence of Panchabuthaalu (Five essentials elements for Life) namely Agni(Fire), Bhumi(Earth), Akaasham(Sky), Neeru(Water) and Vaayuvu(Air).

In the olden days, the marriage ceremony could last up to 16 days ( Padahaaru Rojula Panduga ). In the recent days, the marriage ceremony occurs up to 5 days depending on the family financial, social status and the region where the marriage ceremony will conduct. The typical traditional Telugu Marriage ceremony is organized in a unique way compared to other religions. It is a long process where in a number of rituals are conducted before, during and after marriage.

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Telugu Marriage Pre Marriage Rituals

In the earlier days boy and girl used to see each other only during the marriage because everything was decided by the elders of the family. The decisions were made by the elders considering the family cast, religion, status, family background.

Pelli Chupulu

Later the families agreed that the consent of the boy and the girl before marriage is important. Finally it became a formal to make a boy and girl see each other and decide on the marriage only upon their opinions. The event of looking each other is called ‘Pelli Chupulu’.

Engagement (Nischitartham)

Once the girl and boy agreed to marry each other then both families meet to perform rituals to make the engagement official. A marriage date and time (muhurtham) is decided by the astrologer based on the couple horoscopes. The couple then blessed with all the elders of the families and is given gifts including jewelry and clothing by their new family. The bride will be given the new clothes, gold and also silverware by her future mother- in-law.

Telugu Marriage Marriage Arrangements

Once the formal marriage engagement is over then starts the way to the preparations for the marriage, which are done in the colorful, most elaborate and vivacious way. The marriage ceremony is help under the marriage pavilion (Kalyana Mandapam) decorated with fresh flowers with accompany nadasvaram which is a traditional Telugu marriage music. Earlier groom rides to the bride’s place where the marriage is supposed to take place. This is called ‘Gajarohana’ which is faded out these days. All the rituals which are conducted throughout the Telugu marriage ceremony hold the Telugu religious significance and each moment in ceremony is connected  with the other and given special importance. Pre marriage pujas will be held by some people so that the marriage is organized without any hassle.

Snatakam

Snatakam is usually performed by the groom before house-holder activities are handed over to groom. This takes place at bridegroom’s house before muhurtam(marriage time). As a part of the marriage custom groom wears a silver thread on his body. This all will happen just few hours before the marriage.

Kashiyatra

After snatakam, groom is eligible for the higher studies and is eligible to go the place called Kashi to study further or become sanyasi. However, as a pre marriage ceremony groom just pretends that he is going to Kashi and says he is discarded all the relationships, pleasures and properties and is no more interested in getting married and leading a family life. Then the bride’s brother stops the groom by convincing him by saying some inspirational words about family life and they tease each other quite a lot and finally groom agrees to marry the bride.

Telugu Marriage Marriage Rituals

As a part of the marriage customs there are some pujas will be held by the bride and groom at their respective houses prior to the marriage.

Mangala Snanam

The bride and the groom are required to take an auspicious bath on the marriage day. The aim is to purify them and make them perform sacred rites. This bath is called Abhyangana Snanam.

Bridal Makeup ( Pellikuthuru / Pellikoduku )

In this marriage ceremony all the relatives and the well wishers of the families gather at the bride and groom’s respective houses and smear them with turmeric paste (Nalugu – mixute of turmeric powder and flours) and oil. This process is done to cleanse their skin so that the natural glow is radiated after they take bathe. This is the starting of the ceremony. They are given a new set of clothes to wear and are blessed by elders and the astrologers. After this ceremony the bride is not allowed to go out of the town until the marriage ceremony is finished.

Harati ( Aarti )

Oil is applied to both bride and groom at their respective houses. Thereafter, all the family members and well wishers get together to perform Aarti. They pray for the couple to be granted the wisdom to lead their family life happily.

Ganesha and Gowri Puja

Just before the marriage ceremony, the groom attends the God Ganesha and Goddess Gowri puja which is conducted at the mandapam. Where the bride does the Gowri puja at the house with all her family members and relatives just before going to the marriage mandapam. This is time when the bride’s gotram will be changed from her paternal gotram to the groom’s gotram, this is called Pravara. All the elder couples of both families attend and witness the Pravara while the bride is performing the Gowri puja.

Kanyadanam

After all the rituals done by the bride at her house, she will be taken to the marriage mandapam in a bambooo basket. Her maternal uncle brings her to the marriage mandapam. Kanyadanam is the ceremony where the bride’s family hands her responsibility to the groom. Bride and groom are not allowed to see each other until the completion of the kanyadanam. The bride’s parents wash the groom’s feet as a gesture of respect because on the day of marriage the groom is considered as the Lord Vishnu Swarupam (indication) who has come to marry their daughter who is considered as goddess Lakshmi Devi. Then the groom is made to chant ‘Dharmecha Arthecha Kamecha Mokshecha Nathi Charami’ 3 times and give the bride’s father assurance that he shall remain for ever her companion in joy and sorrow.

Telugu Marriage Tradition
Telugu Marriage Tradition

Panigrahanam (holding hands)

The groom holds the hand of the bride. The mantras say: The gods/goddesses have offered you to me in order that I may live the life of a householder (Gruhasta). We shall not part from each other.

Jeelakarra Bellam & Madhuaparkam

The priest chants some slokas from the vedas. Thereafter they will give the paste made from Jaggery and cumin seeds to bride and groom and ask them to place the paste on each other’s head. This custom is known as the Jeelakaraa Bellam. This indicates that the relationship of the couple is unbreakable and inseperable. This ceremony should be done exactly at the marriage muhurtham time. Once this ceremony is done all will relax and complete the other ceremones slowly. The high importance is given to the jeelakarrabellam in entire marriage ceremonies. Once again the Pravara i.e changing of the bride’s gotram from here parental gotram to groom’s gotram happen on the mandapam infront of the groom and all the members attending the marriage. Henceforth the bride is no more belongs to her father’s gotram and belongs to the groom’s gotram. As a part of the Madhuparkam ritual the bride wears the white saree with red border and the groom wears the a white dhoti wth a red border. White symbolizes the purity and red represents the strength.

Telugu Marriage Jeelakarra bellam
Telugu Marriage Jeelakarra bellam

Sumangali

Ten married women gather with the bride and six out of ten women hold the plates containing the sacred rice ( mixture of rice and turmeric powder ) while the other four members hold the small lit lamps on their respective plates. Here in this ceremony rice represents abundance and the lit lamps symbolize the light.

Mangalasutra Dharana

Now the bride sits beside the groom and the curtain is removed they are now allowed to see each other. Mangalasutram is the thread contains two golden discs. The groom then ties the mangalasutram around the bride’s neck. This mangalasutram represents the physical, mental and spiritual union of the couple. In the Telugu marriage the groom ties three knots of managalasutram.

Akshintalu

During this ceremony, the bride and groom exchange the garlands and shower the pearls, rice, flower petals on the each other’s head. Then the married people witnessing the marriage occasion come forward and bless the couple by sprinkling the flower petals and rice coated with turmeric powder.

Saptapadi

As a part of saptapadi ritual, the groom’s scarf is tied to the bride’s saree pallu (edge of saree ). The groom and bride walk seven steps together around the fire, while taking their oaths of caring, guiding, loving, understanding and protecting each other.

Telugu Marriage Ceremony - Golden Marriages
Telugu Marriage Ceremony – Golden Marriages

Sthalipakam

During this ceremony the groom adoms the feet of the bride with silver toe rings. This shows that the man bends to the woman in order to claim her as his. And in order to ward off the evil eye, the bride is adorned by a string of black beads to her mangalasutra. These beads along with the silver toe rings symbolize that she is a married woman. After this ceremony the pot with some decoration and filled with water is put on the marriage dais. And the priest leave the ring in the pot. The groom and bride now asked to search for it. The groom puts his right hand in to the pot and the bride uses her left hand to search for the ring. Whoever wins in this competition is said to be the dominant person in their family life. This will have some fun with supporting teams to the bride and groom. The bride is now asked to cook on the sacred flame of the Agnihotram symbolizing that she is now responsible to take care of the health of her husband and family.

Appaginthalu

This is the time when the bride is traditionally handed off to the groom and the his family. This is the last event of the marriage occasion.

Telugu Marriage Appaginthalu
Telugu Marriage Appaginthalu

Telugu Marriage Post Marriage Rituals

Once the marriage ceremony is over, the bride enters the groom’s house formally. She is given a hearty welcome by her new family members.

Gruhapravesham

After the marriage ceremony is over, the bride is taken to the groom’s house with some musical arrangements. This is called the gruhapravesam of the bride to her new life. As she steps into her new house she is welcomed by the groom’s family members and closest relatives.

Telugu Marriage Grihapravesham - Golden Marriages
Telugu Marriage Grihapravesham – Golden Marriages

Satyanarayana Vratam

This is the very popular pooja in Andhra Pradesh and Telangana India. This is performed by the bride and groom after the gruhapravesam in groom’s residence. This pooja usually done by the couple while entering into their new house.

Uniting the Managalsutram

Uniting the Mangalasutram is done after sixteen days from the marriage. This ritual is done by the groom or the elder members of the family. A few black beads are put between the two gold plates of the mangalasutram so that they do not clash with each other. The uniting of managalasutram signifies that the harmony between the two families. After the ceremony is over the bride takes a bath and wears a new saree.